For Christians Seeking to Marry

     There are hundreds of millions of people, maybe even into the billions, seeking to either marry or remarry at this point in time, probably like any other point in time. Yet the question is: “Where is the right woman for the man seeking a wife who is truly from the Lord?” “Where is the right man for the woman desiring of a husband who is entirely from the Lord?” These two questions plague the hearts of so many that instead of it being a bit intriguing, wondrous and somewhat of exciting learning an exploring experience, it becomes a burden, a hasty decision, a pursuit of what merely is the privilege of being married and other poor intentions, desires and motives.

However, if we were to take a look for a moment at something very profound in the word of God, hopefully those who are perplexed about finding “the one” will no longer be burdened but rather have a hopeful expectation that God knows exactly what He is doing.

In Genesis Chapter 1 it reads: “Then God said, "Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth. “So God created man in His own image; in the image of God “He created him; male and female He created them.”

Notice for a moment that when the bible first speaks of God creating man, it does not speak of just ONE man, it clearly says “THEM” at the end of the passage. Yet it even speaks of how God created “Him,” each of the men, as individuals, as well to begin with. If you reread the passage once again it says that God created him (each man He created) “MALE AND FEMALE.” For in order for the man to be created in God’s own image, the man was created with both male and female nature at the very same time, within. God is Spirit and The Image of God is NOT just MALE, but also FEMALE as Well, Coexisting in Perfect Unity to be All of Who God Was, Is and Always Will be.

So there we have a group of however many men God created in the beginning, with the female portion of their being still intact within them.

However, as we continue to read on further it becomes very clear that there was no suitable helper to be found for the man among all of God’s creation and God said in Chapter 2 verse 18: “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.”  

Now right before it speaks of God’s plan to make a helper comparable to the man, it says this in Verse 15: “Then the Lord took “the man” and put him in the garden of Eden to tend and keep it.” Notice that formerly there was a plural, when it spoke: "God Creating He, him, male and female He created “THEM.” It reveals, once again, that in the beginning there were men who were each created individually as “Male and Female.” Yet it also reveals that God took one of those men, as His chosen one, to be put into the Garden of Eden in order to tend and keep it, along with the instructions given to him regarding the two trees in the Garden.

So now we move on to The Lord God’s plan (For now because relationship is introduced between God and one man, Moses is inspired by the Holy Spirit to change the written reference from God to The Lord God – Again, this being due to Having Relationship with a Man now). So The Lord God chooses to take one chosen man out of “the men” whom He created, names him Adam, and places him in a glorious garden where then The Lord God speaks that He will make the Helper whom Adam needed.

As you may know, The Lord God placed Adam into a deep sleep and removed one of Adam’s ribs and along with that rib, The Lord God also removed the female portion of Adam which remained within him since God first created him and then fashions Adam's rib into the Woman whom Adam sees and says: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh, she shall be called Woman; for she was taken out of Man.”

Adam clearly saw and identifies that the female portion of how he was initially made, which he spoke was even “flesh of his flesh and bone of his bones,” was taken out or removed from Him in order to be made by the Lord God and brought before him as the comparable helper that he needed, whom Adam later names: Eve.

You might be asking yourself: “How does this Relate to Me Finding: "The One?” Well, it just so happens that as time, even millenniums progressed and the bodies of men and women were studied, it became known that men have ONE LESS RIB than women do……..Which leads to the point……..

“When The Lord is Ready, The Woman for Each Man Who is Called to be Married, Will be Brought to Him by The Lord in Order to Restore His Missing Rib (or that Place That Only His Comparable Helper Can Fill)” -  As The Two Become: “ONE FLESH!”

There is no need to fear, fret, worry, or to get all hyped up about getting on those dating sites and even feeling the need  to go “speed dating”, “blind dating,” or any other means of trying to make it happen yourself in your own strength. The bible promises that The Lord will grant us the desires of our heart’s, as we delight ourselves in Him. There is a special key in what I just wrote…….Until the time when the Lord has already predetermined and predestined for that right man or that right woman for you to meet, fall in love with and marry comes, "Choose to Delight Yourself in The Lord."

The ability to be satisfied during and in the waiting process of how The Lord desires to bring about the marriage relationship, is by leaning on, relying upon, delighting in and being caught up in your relationship with Him. His grace is more than sufficient, so long as each person chooses to make the proper amount of time for being in and maintaining relationship with the Lord in order for that precious grace to be found and received.

“For All the Promises of God, in Him, are Yes and Amen” (2 Cor 1:20) & “The Promises of God are inherited through Faith & Patience.”(Heb 6:12)

Everything that any man or woman needs to sustain his or herself before marrying or perhaps before remarrying, in certain cases, is found in Christ Jesus and in Him alone, through His Holy Spirit Dwelling within Each Believer.

Likewise, there is only thing that any man or woman needs to do in order to finally find the one who was already chosen by the Lord for him or her before they were even born. That thing is to simply wait upon and be obedient to the Lord in a close, personal relationship & friendship with Him. This is something that the Holy Spirit is more than capable of empowering each and every believer to do and to have.

Trust Him…He Always Knows Best & Always Has Our Best Interests in His Heart, Mind & Plan!

Blessed be the Name of the Lord! Amen and amen.